Intro:

If your clients are in a neurodiverse partnership, standard approaches might not land.

What appears as avoidance might be sensory overload. What looks like disconnection might be delayed processing.

This page offers guiding questions, frameworks, and perspective shifts to help you attune more precisely.

Top Tips:

• Slow down the pace of sessions. Silence may be processing, not resistance.

• Normalize different cognitive and emotional timelines.

• Assess for trauma-informed neurodivergence on both sides.

• Clarify what “repair” looks like for each partner—it’s often different.

• Don’t assume emotional expression equals emotional depth. Listen differently.